No matter who you are it’s inevitable that at some point in your life a woman will be attracted to you, and you won’t return her feelings. More than likely you’ve already experienced this, and more than likely you’ll experience it again.
Video on how to let her down easy
It’s difficult to know what to do in this situation, especially if a woman puts you on the spot. Here are some things to keep in mind when you’re confronted with this situation to ensure you hurt her feelings as little as possible.
- It feels good to know someone finds you attractive; acknowledge this and let her know that you are flattered even though you’re not interested. Take her attraction as a compliment instead of an embarrassment or inconvenience.
- Be honest. If it really is just a bad time for you then it’s okay to say so. If you know that you will never return her feelings then it’s NOT okay to string her along with excuses like your schedule. Tell her the truth, as kindly as possible, and be done with it.
- Some women have a hard time taking no for an answer. Keep in mind that you may have to become increasingly direct about your feelings, or lack thereof, if she tries to persuade you to change your mind.
- After you’ve let her down as gently as possible give her some space. It’s likely that she feels embarrassed about her unrequited feelings and will need some time before she’s comfortable around you.